I can’t seem to get myself going. I’m distracted… an email alert goes off and I click on the email. I read the email, check something online, look at social media and then go back to writing my blog post. I write a couple more lines. Another alert goes off… distracted again. Frustrated. Sigh.
I started my blog last month, and I committed to blogging once every two weeks. The first two posts went very well. This one, not so much. I can’t seem to come up with a concept and message that I feel passionate about. And I don’t like being wishy-washy about what I have to say. And the thing is, I have a lot to say, so what’s really going on here?
Letting go of the belief that I need to be perfect
The belief that I need to be perfect is, by far, my biggest challenge. And I know it’s what I’m struggling with as I write this post. I seem to think it needs to be an epic, ground-breaking masterpiece that changes the world. Come to think of it, I seem to think that for just about everything I write. Hmmmm… The point is, the more I think about how “epic” this post needs to be, the more I watch time tick away. The more time ticks away, the less I do and the worse I feel. There have been countless times that I’ve thought I must have a fully baked idea before I start doing something, and I’ve given up opportunities to meet people, attend events and put myself out there, all with the belief that I needed to be “more”. How many times have you told yourself that tomorrow you’ll feel more confident, more knowledgeable, more ready just to have tomorrow turn into next week, month, or year?
Embracing where I am at any given moment
I’ve decided to challenge the idea of perfection by embracing where I am at this very moment. I’m sitting in a café sharing my struggle – voices from multiple conversations, the sound of clanking dishes and the hum of a blender surround me. This blog post is not fully conceived by my lofty standards, but embracing where I am in this moment has somehow led me to write something, taking one step forward – one step further than where I was an hour ago when I couldn’t get myself going. So what if this blog post isn’t the best one I’ve ever written? What do I have to lose? At the very least, I’ll be seen as a person, who despite being a coach, also experiences struggles just like everyone else. I’m not perfect. You’re not perfect. Conditions will never be perfect. And that’s OK. Sometimes it just needs to be about who we are at a specific moment. Sometimes embracing that is all we need to do to get ourselves unstuck.
How might the belief of needing to be perfect be holding you back from moving forward with your goals? How have you gotten yourself moving in moments you’ve felt stuck? Share your thoughts in the comments below!